Enjoying good and forbidding evil.
Many people when they become practicing and then start to associate themselves with a particular group. Begin to see themselves as elitists. They see other groups and people as hell-bent on going astray and being pure evil. This notion or ideology which stems from ignorance of the rules of shariyah then leads these people to despise muslims in general and curse them at any given situation. Rather than adopting the prophetic ways of making sincere dua for guidance for Muslims and themselves. They begin to see themselves as immune to commuting sins and slowly lead others aswell as themselves astray!
Several days ago I happen to inform a person (a member of the family) not to be quick in condemning people for not doing this or that.
As this is not an appropriate thing to do. That, one should look at his/her own mistakes more than others.
This person in reply said , “okay then tell me what mistakes I do? As I cannot see any wrong that I am doing.” I simply said, “more than anyone telling you your mistakes, only you will know which mistakes/sins you frequently do”.
Despite this, the person was deaf to heeding to the advice, but rather continued the rampage! (shocking)
Archived discourses notes part 4 – 07/03/03
Time started: 8:50pm
– Whenever and IF someone does not act upon the sunnah you have no authority to criticise them.
Imam ahmad ibn hanbal (ra) narrated; at the time of the prophet (saw) a man passed by and greeted (the companions who were in a gathering) with Salam. When he had departed, one of the men present in the gathering said something negative regarding the person who gave salam. When word got round to the first man who gave salam he became upset and went directly to the prophet (saw) and sought help. He told the prophet (saw) what was said about him. – the companions were trained not to love or hate other than for Allah’s sake.
– the reason why the first man – who greeted the companions with salam went to the prophet (saw) and did not confront the accuser was because he was avoiding a fitna from occurring. If he had directly confronted the person who insulted him and replied in the same manner. Then there would have a great fitna amongst the companions.
The prophet (saw) heard the case of the first man and then called the person who insulted him to come to the prophet (saw) and answer the queries of the first man. When the accuser did appear in the court of the messenger of Allah (saw) he admitted his crimes and agreed that indeed he had wronged the man who gave salam. The prophet (saw) asked him; (to the nearest meaning) – to teach us a lesson, “what did you say about him?” the man said “o messenger of Allah. I being his neighbour know things about him maybe others did not. I had said to the others that he never prays the sunnah part of the any salah. Just the fard (obligatory) part of each salah. After hearing this the man who was insulted (the first man who gave salam) said; ” by Allah, o messenger of Allah that man never pays Sadkat except the zakat and nothing else! And, he never prays any nafl (optional) prayers”.
– We learn many lessons from this. However, the scholars and the awliyah say the main lessons are thus;
1) firstly we should practice Islam ourselves then try to encourage others to do it. Especially regarding the sunnah acts of worships.
2) secondly, the times that we can confront a person harshly is ONLY when the other person does not offer his fard or his wajibat (compulsory) acts of Islam.
3) we cannot admonish people for not acting on the sunnah. – we can only encourage them.
4) if you go round accusing people then pride will come in you. You will then begin to think you are far better than everyone else. This will then drastically effect your worship. As you will be full of pride and arrogance
5) when your nafs (ego) has been defeated, (subdued) then you will begin to see yourself as lower than the creation of Allah. Not the other way round. – you better than them.
6) remember a crucial point here: The ulema say the reason why you should not go round accusing and condemning people for not acting on the sunnah is because Allah will not ask them on the day of judgement as to why they did not act on the sunnah.
– whenever the prophet (saw) addressed two parties regarding any issue. For example, a problem or a dispute he (saw) did not give side with anybody. Meaning, he (saw) did not take sides, supporting one side more the the other!
– If you take sides when trying to judge between two groups of people, then the person who has really been oppressed will see you as also oppressing him/her/them, and thereafter will not take your decision seriously, or as an answer to his her problem.
– if you ask for a mushwara of someone and you mention their name it will not be regarded as a sin or backbiting. For example, you want to go into a business with a person. Second example is the incident with khalid ibn al waleed (ra). He went and complained about abdur rahman ibn awf (ra) about an issue. When he (Abdur rahman ibn awf (ra)) was not present, to the prophet (saw).
The prophet (saw) said to khalid ibn al waleed (to the nearest meaning) “do not upset the people who were in the battle of badr.” He (saw) did not admonish him for talking behind Abdur rahman ibn awf’s back. Only said do not upset him.
– There are 9 such situations where you can mention a name of a person in his/her absence. Imam ghazali mentions in ihya uloom.
A principle of shariyah:
Any form of worship which the shariyah has stipulated can not be changed. The salah for example, its form of bowing, prostrating etc can not be changed by anyone.
However, for nafl acts of worship like Dhikr, optional tasbeeh, there has been no form stipulated by the shariyah. This is why you can do it however it suits you. – halal ways of course! You can do it standing, sitting, laying etc.
– if a person is oppressing and harming another person and you have come to know of it by fact finding mission. Then you should correct the situation and also ask the oppressed person to forgive the person who harmed him/her. This will help to eliminate any grudges from growing between the two parties.
– remember that, when you come across anyone and they have done a mistake, if he admits his mistake then there is a chance he will be guided. If he does not admit his mistake then there is less chance for him to be guided by Allah.
– Admitting to your mistakes is a way out for you. It is not to be ashamed of, if it a small mistake.